the girl I love is a cutter. i found out and was alarmed, and together friendly gently we agreed she would try her best not to turn her daily disappointments into secret cutting. A few months have passed and she became distant and joyless. I learned from a friend she is cutting her feet so she can't walk away from her room at home or her desk at school.

I reminded her gently but formly of our agreement to not cut but she found it easier to break up with me than to not cut,. So here I am, dumped, she has a razor blade for a bf . I love her and like her. I am waiting for an improvement. I might wait for the rest of my life.

Sometimes she is lucid and rational, other times she doesn't make much sence. She is exceptionally intelligent. loving and caring. But when she fets down she resorts to the blade and a week or more of cutting. Her family doesn't know, Only a few people know, I am worried that I may have done something to hurt her and didn't know what.

I have not dumped her, she has dumped herself. Professional help? I doubt she will take it, she is too embaressed she says .. Love and support ? she has already rejected that.rejected me and all her friends one by one since the summer, she is alone and cutting herself, I don't think she really likes what is happening to her; It doesn't seem like she shose to dut, its almost as if she discovered that she has become addicted and can't/won't stop.

she says I don't understand, nobody understands shes right we don't understand but want to understand.

I am being more direct here than i am in real life.

any suggestions? I am open to anything from anyone who has real experience.Especially a success model. of how to live with this if it won't be stopping .

thank you

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